Couples therapy

I offer practical therapy that helps couples learn how to keep conflict discussions calm, to break out of habits that lead to conflict, to generate greater understanding and to increase respect, affection and closeness.

What is Gottman Method couples therapy?

The Gottman Method is an evidence-based form of couples therapy that assists couples in achieving a better understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their relationships which ultimately leads to increased intimacy and interpersonal growth. By combining therapeutic interventions with couples exercises, this type of therapy helps couples to develop the tools necessary to break down the natural defenses that hinder effective communication and bonding.

Whom is it for?

The Gottman Method is designed to support couples to create and maintain greater love and health in relationships, irrespective of race, religion, class, culture, sexual orientation, and ethnicity.

If you are encountering the following problems you may benefit from Gottman Method couples therapy.

  • You often argue.
  • You communicate poorly.
  • You as a couple are emotionally distanced and on the verge of separation.
  • You have encountered specific problems in the areas of sexual activity, finances, or parenting.

Some couples struggle with special circumstances which contribute to their situation such as:

  • previous marriages,
  • step-family issues,
  • extra-marital affairs,
  • a history of abuse or trauma, or
  • psychological problems such as depression.

The Gottman Method is designed to support couples across all economic, racial, sexual orientation and cultural divides.

What to expect

Before you begin treatment as a couple you will participate in an assessment process. The assessment process includes:

  • a 90-minute interview with you as a couple tracing the trajectory of your relationship, observing how you interact, especially during difficult discussions;
  • an online questionnaire: The Relationship Check-Up.
  • a 45-60 minute individual session during which you will be able to talk about your own perspective and goals for your relationship; and
  • a 90-minute feedback session, during which I will review your assessment materials and provide detailed feedback on the strengths and challenges of your relationship. At the end of the feedback session you will receive recommendations on what changes might be helpful in creating a flourishing relationship. 

How long will it take?

Before you as a couple begin treatment as a couple you will participate in an assessment process. The assessment process includes:

  • a 90-minute interview with you as a couple tracing the trajectory of your relationship, observing how you interact, especially during difficult discussions;
  • an online questionnaire;
  • a 45-minute individual session during which you will be able to talk about your own perspective and goals for your relationship; and
  • a 90-minute feedback session, during which the therapist will review your assessment materials and provide detailed feedback on the strengths and challenges of your relationship. At the end of the feedback session you will receive recommendations on what changes might be helpful in creating a flourishing relationship.

The total number of sessions after the assessment depends very much on your personal circumstances. Many clients report that they experience some kind of change already in the first session after the assessment.

Couples marathon therapy

A focused and condensed approach to marriage counselling that will provide you with what you need to address specific issues and get your relationship back on track. In this powerful therapy format we meet for several consecutive days.

What is Gottman Method couples marathon therapy?

In marathon therapy you will have time to talk in depth and without interruption about the struggles and challenges of your relationship. You will learn and practice new communication skills to help you have more productive conversations and build trust and friendship within your relationship again.

It is important, however, that despite the “nuts and bolts” approach of this method, the Marathon Couples Therapy format may move you more quickly into the areas of difficulty to be addressed.

All couples that participate in Marathon Couples Therapy receive a scientific written evaluation of their relationship powered by the Gottman Love Lab. This comprehensive relationship assessment will pinpoint the areas for growth so you can move forward to a place of strength, reconnection, and hope.

If you choose marathon therapy you will be invited to participate in a study on the effectiveness of Gottman Method Marathon Couples Therapy with the use of the Affective Software Inc (ASI) software and equipment. I am happy to answer any questions you may have about the research study and ASI technology.

Whom is it for?

  • It’s a good fit for couples who want intensive therapy
  • It’s also a good fit for couples whose schedules do not allow for them to go to weekly therapy sessions.
  • It's a great fit for couples who need to get help immediately.

What to expect

  • The 3-part Gottman assessment (intake, individual meetings and feedback session) will likely occur in a single day.
  • After the assessment, we will meet for 2 consecutive full days of therapy.
  • Consecutive full days of therapy are 6 hours of therapy per day consisting of 2-3 hour sessions with breaks.

When is marathon couples therapy not suitable?

  • From either partner’s perspective, a partner is struggling with an alcohol or drug addiction.
  • There is violence in your relationship, threats that violence might occur, or fear of such violence.
  • Either partner currently has an untreated major mental illness (for example, schizophrenia, recurrent psychotic depression, or bipolar/manic-depressive illness).
  • Either partner is currently experiencing suicidal or homicidal thoughts, or has a history of serious harm inflicted on him/herself or another person.
  • If there is an undisclosed, ongoing extramarital affair that you are not willing to disclose. Keeping such secrets interferes with marital therapy.

Marathon therapy is a focused and condensed approach to marriage counselling that will provide you with what you need to address specific issues and get your relationship back on track.

If you are a couple struggling with communication problems and emotional distancing, couples therapy can help you.